To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
[content warning: rape, rape culture, misogyny, misogynoir, street harassment]
@Crommunist shared some really important tweets about this “men are hunters” crap that gets used to justify everything from street harassment to rape. I really appreciate his commentaries on rethinking masculinity outside of a patriarchal framework. Here he conveys how male self-hatred and devaluation in patriarchy is what would make such a description justifiable to a man. Clearly patriarchal thinking harms men as well; it justifies them dehumanizing themselves as an excuse to harm women and be oppressive.
A Black woman and mutual follower on Twitter recently described a street harassment experience (and of course I can relate to this, as you know) and a Black man replied to her about men being “hunters” and that she shouldn’t take street harassment (at night no less) personal. What?
See, the “hunter” thing is an especially dangerous perspective for Black men to take on. While doing so might make them feel like “peers” with patriarchal White men, because of racism and the history of dehumanization of Black men’s bodies and masculinity, the “hunter” thing simply becomes the “brute” controlling image type. And despite the fact that White men basically sexually assault White women with impunity, Black men still remain the face of the rapist in society while the face of the victim/survivor is always a White woman. Nevermind that the actual reality of violence that Black men inflict on Black women is erased by the aforementioned racist conception or that with the exception of Native women (who White men primarily rape, in addition to White women), most rape occurs intraracially anyway.
Men who ascribe to this cruel dehumanization of themselves to justify violence against women as “natural” need to think about why they think this is okay. They say this so effortlessly which of course reveals patriarchal socialization. It doesn’t get any easier to hear and worse is when they say it while women are recounting street harassment/sexual assault experiences and seeking support among other women online. Derailing women speaking about abuse to justify the abuse in any way is also abuse.
Comedian Jamie Kilstein thinks we shouldn’t joke about violence against women. That view got him notably shunned from the comedy community; other famous comedians weighed in, called him names, it was a whole thing. As a result, he lost a TV deal, promotional gigs, and friends — all because he said rape jokes are bad.
"With all the good it’s brought, technology is destroying our communication skills— especially the ability to listen. The older generation can still listen, but many of the youngsters can’t even look you in the eye while you speak. If they aren’t looking at their mobiles, they’re looking over your shoulder or glancing around the room."
"Why is verbal communication more important than communication through a device?"
"Because there’s only so much you can learn from your Facebook friends."
Q:why are you a feminist???
because people are still asking that question
because women are payed less than men in approximately 99% of professions
because chris brown can still have a career after assaulting rihanna but miley cyrus takes her clothes off and there’s a huge scandal
because of this:
because currently it is estimated ten million more girls are out of education than boys (x)
because we’re expected to be mature but hairless like a child, in control but not bossy, sexy but not slutty and definitely not a prude, intelligent but not opinionated, independent but reliant on men, natural but look like the girl in the magazine etc etc
because being called a girl, a pussy or a bitch is an insult
because when i told my mum i refused to get anything less than a’s in my exams she told me it wasn’t ladylike to be so cocky
because my brother and 90% of my male friends think girls who wear revealing clothing are asking for rape
because every person who identifies as female should be allowed to choose if they want to get married, have kids, have a career, go to uni etc etc without expectations
because tampons and sanitary pads are stupidly expensive
because some people reading this will have flinched at the fact i just said ‘tampon’
because there are men out there whose job it is to make young girls feel like absolute shit about themselves just so they can sell the next best beauty product
because female masturbation isn’t considered normal whilst men can talk about their own penises for hours on end
because feminists are still seen as crazy lesbians who dont shave and some still feel like they have to defend themselves by claiming theyre not any of those things when in fact if i want to be a passionate lady who likes other ladies and cant be bothered to shave my legs every twenty minutes then thats my choice and if i want to be someone who wears make up and shaves and goes out partying then thats my choice and if i want to be a combination of the two or anything in between then thats. my. choice.
because i believe anyone who identifies as female is fucking badass and deserves the same rights as every privileged stuck up old white man sitting around and making laws about our bodies
because how can you not be
This video made me want to cry tears of linguistic joy.
This public school in Los Angeles is teaching kids to essentially become bilingual—learning the “mainstream” form of American English without devaluing the AAVE they speak at home. Absolutely incredible.
Here’s another video from the same series (the documentary “Do you speak American?”), talking to some of the now-adult children and parents who were part of the landmark 1979 court case (MLK Jr. Elementary school kids vs. Ann Arbor MI school board), finding that the black children in the school were being discriminated against based on their language.
It’s long been shown that it’s more effective to teach children to codeswitch between multiple dialects or languages than to force them to abandon what they speak at home and use only the dominant one, both in terms of children’s skills with the dominant language (how do you learn to sound out words when the sounds you’re using don’t correspond to your teacher’s?) and in terms of children’s emotional development (unsurprisingly, people don’t like school much when they’re constantly told that their community is wrong). Barriers for teaching children to codeswitch are for political and social reasons, not linguistic ones.
This was so funny. I ran into this Mexican couple on a trail in Central Park, and they were lugging around all these balloons. I asked what the balloons were for, and the guy told me that he’d brought them all the way from Mexico. He said he’d concocted this elaborate plan, where he’d given balloons to different people around the city (starting with the hotel concierge), and sent the girl on a scavenger hunt to find them.
"Just because?" I asked.
"Just because," he said.
When I got home, I had an email. It said:
I couldn’t tell you, but I was about to ask her to marry me.
She said yes!
I love this!
Finn, Lena and I made an igloo together today.